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INFP meets ENFJ

. . . and it is a match made in Heaven. Literally.

 

INFP (Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving)

“Taking Everything to Heart”

Because INFPs represent such a small percentage of the American population, they naturally feel alone and a bit out of step with our bustling, pragmatic, and product-oriented society. Typically INFPs struggle to find their niche in the world of work and in society as a whole. Since most INFPs don’t feel comfortable in traditional organizations, especially businesses, they spend much of their early careers trying to fit in where they clearly do not. Instinctively, INFPs know they are different; they’ve felt it all their lives.  Understanding how and why they are different is a validation of their uniqueness and they usually feel better about themselves as a result of learning about their type. Many INFPs find the framework and language of Type also helps them deal with tensions and conflicts and reduces misunderstandings between their friends . . .

INFPs  need to know that their values and feelings are legitimate and that the people they care about and love them in spite of the roller coaster of emotions they often ride. Unconditional love is as important to these [people] as water and air . . . Teaching INFPs to communicate their opinions and beliefs even in the face of criticism, negativity, skepticism, or direct confrontation helps them to grow to have faith in themselves and become assertive about their beliefs . . .

At their best, INFPs are deeply faithful and compassionate people with strong convictions and great empathy. They are creative, visionary, and inspired problem solvers and original and alternative thinkers. With support and encouragement, INFPs grow up to trust their inner voice, confidently living the sometimes alternative, artistic, or spiritual life to which they are called. (Excerpts taken from Nurture by Nature)

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ENFJ (Extravert, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging)

“A Thousand Watts of Enthusiasm”

Enthusiasm is perhaps the most obvious and consistent trait young ENFJs share. They are eager and ready to face the world with a smile at all times. They are energetic and excited about playing with other children or abut interacting with adults, provided they feel safe and supported by a nearby parent. Young ENFJs often smile easily at strangers and seem to understand the power of a flirtatious look . . .

While it is obvious that all children need abundant love, acceptance, and support to grow and thrive, ENFJs can’t live without it. They need their parents to listen to their opinions and beliefs and to know that they are accepted as legitimate and important if they are to develop their full measure of self-esteem . . . ENFJs who feel free to express themselves without fear of rejection, embarrassment, or criticism grow up confident, accepting of others, and responsible for themselves . . .

At their best, ENFJs are loving, genuine, and empathetic people with great personal charm and warmth. Their natural compassion and global view of the world can make them charismatic and inspiring leaders. ENFJs can have enormous and productive creative energy and the enthusiasm and commitment to complete the projects they care about. They can motivate and encourage others to reach their own highest potential. When encouraged to trust themselves and their values, they become healthy, strong, open-minded adults, with a huge capacity for kindness and generosity. (Excerpts taken from Nurture by Nature)

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